It seems men are not allowed to have a view about women in 2017
We now live in a world that would rather it’s men not talk about women in any context. I mean men over the age of 25 talking about women that’s just creepy right? What do they know about women anyway? And what about these married men, some of them over 50 who still find other ladies attractive or feel their view on the female body is still relevant, shouldn’t we get these old farts castrated because that’s just plain nasty?
All joking aside, the inconvenient truth is most men are hardwired to be attracted to the opposite sex. I’m sorry to be the bringer of bad news but this basic and primal programming can not be deleted and it does not at the time of writing have an age cut off date, at least not yet. Hence why old rich farts offend the minds and eyes of society by dating young and dare I say sexy models. Yes that nice old granddad down the home is still checking out the female form when he has the right glasses on, Eew Gross! LOL
That said, I’m not here to write about the male sex drive, I’m here to rock society to it’s very core with this simple fact, like it or hate it some men (more than you would like to think ) are attracted to big plus size women. Yes those forms that the media would rather we reject, the ones people describe in a whole myriad of ways from well meaning to disrespectful to just pain hateful. Here is just a few:-
Fat, Fatty, Pud, chunky, curvy, thick, flabby, buxom, pig, plumpish, wide, obese and the now fetishised porn tag BBW.
To be honest I hate most of them, I’m pleading the 5th on the naming subject, but my wife likes curvy or buxom best. So, while I fully understand that in our politically correct world It’s not the done thing to use such words or to think about people as body shapes. I’m an old fart who rejects most of that PC bull-crap. I hate all name calling, personally I came from a time/family that unless you were a total jerk you treated all women with respect, no matter of their size, simply because that’s what men were meant to do. Don’t worry people on the far left, I’ll be dead in a few decades and promise I’ll take my quaint deviant ideas with me, but I digress.
Let’s show some hate for those body shamers
As a man who has lived around big women my whole life, my mum was fat before it was fashionable in the 70’s, I know how painfully sad it can be to be a fat woman in a thin fashion world. Hell I was even bullied at school for a time simply because my mum was the only fat woman in town, how screwed up is that? Luckily in 2017, women have to be really, really big before they have to wear the tent dresses my mother was forced to make for herself. The fashion and glamour industries may not have completely embraced the plus size lady, but it is far better than it used to be.
Now I just need to acknowledge one thing, our screwed up media has not only made millions of over weight women feel crap about themselves, they have also messed with the brains of girls most of us would see as thin. Being an ex glamour/boudoir photographer, I worked with hundreds of women and most of them wrongly hated their appearance. I remember once making the massive mistake of calling a girl I had a good working relationship with fat, just as a joke she was painfully thin, she answered back, I know. I realised straight away she had a problem, she really believed she was fat. After talking to her boyfriend he confirmed she could not see herself as she really was. Luckily after a few months of help and positive reinforcement she began to see her body differently and gained enough weight to be healthy. Sadly not everyone is that lucky thousands of women every year kill themselves, both quickly and slowly because society, and most often friends and family have made them hate themselves.
While I understand that a women is not going to take the word of some old fart over the hundreds of magazine covers she is forced to gaze at in the supermarket every week. Many men simply do love big women. Any intelligent person knows that our own brains are often our greatest enemy. I bet right now somewhere in the world a girl is standing at a bar with friends saying to herself ‘I look so fat in this outfit, why the fuck did I wear these high heels I feel like a pig on a stick’.
While across the room a man is looking at the very same woman saying to himself ‘Check out that sexy lady at the bar, hell I wish I was brave enough to talk to someone that beautiful’.
Now just calm the hell down haters
Before feminists, doctors and any one else who just enjoys hating gets all up in my grill (do they still say that?), I know being fat isn’t seen as being healthy, nor should a woman base her worth on what men think. The fact is women are fat for a whole host of reasons from mental states to metabolism, medication and yes simply because they love to eat. While I know scientists will bring out graphs and studies to validate their claims that the weight will kill you. I have a totally different view to life, why the hell do we believe that a long life equals happiness. We are all going to die, what matters is how we lived not how long, There are thousands of people sitting alone in homes that wish they died years ago. So the ‘eat drink and be merry’ approach while frowned on by society made be as good as any other. That said my mother was morbidly obese for nearly 40 years she led an active life only went to the doctors twice in that time and died of a stroke at 78, which to be honest was a pretty good age. I believe that the world is so polluted with industrial crap, nuclear particles and stuff we have never heard of that the life expectancy will start to go down over the coming decades, not up.
Let her eat cake
So why do men like plus sized women? Well it would be foolish to generalise. Personally, I just like big curves for me that is what I find attractive and this is what we are talking about :- an individuals tastes. I have never subscribed to group thought, I do not believe in a standardised ideal body type, I like difference in everything from music to movies to bodies. I’m naturally attracted to curvy women of colour even though I’ve been in a monogamous marriage to a woman who is from an anglo-native American bloodline for 24 years. We can’t help what turns us on, turns our head or even makes us blush. I find it so sad that most people are simply afraid to talk about their sexual preferences, I am sure it’s why everyone is so wound up and angry. Part of the reason for writing this is the hope men will be more open about their admiration for the larger woman, its something that many will face ridicule for.
I know it’s not PC, but I have enjoyed looking at females that flaunt their sexuality for as long as I can remember, I don’t think that will stop just because I’m getting old or people wish it would.
Society should not have a problem with a woman who loves her food and packs on the pounds, as long as she is happy and is still able to live an active and fulfilling life that way. Being happy in our own skin no matter what others say is the most important thing along with being truthful to ones self. I feel sorry for big women that say on the one hand they are happy with their weight, but are always so self-deprecating and always so quick to try the next diet fad. Women like that are obviously not happy being big, that could simply be because they are still in the paradigm where what ‘other’ people think matters more than their own happiness. Personally I do not approve of women are getting dangerously fat simply to for-fill someones fetish that is not what I’m advocating here at all. If a woman is truly unhappy about their weight no matter what size they are, they must see a doctor. I say again however If a woman believes she can’t be ‘sexy’ because of her size then she is mistaken. Sexiness has far more to do with a mental attitude and an inner confidence than some ‘perfect’ body size. Yes haters fat people can still have confidence and be sexy.
I want you and everyone to feel good about their body because life is to short to be worrying about what others think. At the end of the day this is simply an attempt to make big women feel good about themselves, to tell them to stop hiding away, blank the haters and have some fun. Everyone deserves to enjoy their life no matter what size, age, or colour they are.
Learn to Love your curves because big women are beautiful.