As we approach the end of another year people start to think about their New Year’s Resolutions. Some say they want to lose weight, while others want to take up a new hobby or job, some even make bold statements like, I want to change who I am. I can’t help but think these are all doomed to failure unless we leave our past in the past.
It is a fact most people drag the past around like a ball and chain. This past colours their view of everyday life and limits the ability to truly live life. So despite the fact we may enter a whole new year, within a few days we have dragged all our past into it and nothing changes.
Every addiction and negative thought we hold is because of our past, we carry our ‘sins’ with us like a cross which we crucify ourselves on daily. The funny thing is most of the time we don’t even know we are doing it. Nothing can ever change for us until we can see we are not the person we were.
The past can destroy our now and our future if we let it. We see this on the world stage day in day out as our ‘great’ religions battle over the same things they have done for hundred of years. Countries still hate other countries for wars that were fought in the past. Even in the UK history gets in the way of the Scottish, English and welsh being one nation.
Inside us we battle the past daily, things that were said and done to us, things we did and said play over and over again. The Christian concept of sin is a powerful sick which we beat ourselves with, even if we have never been to church that mindset runs through the very heart of western society. Our ‘evil’ deeds no matter how mild stay with us day in day out eating away at our soul. We so want to confess who we really are to the people we meet but society does not hold the truth in hi esteem, compassion and forgiveness are not things practiced in our modern world.
How often do we see our leaders and media stars persecuted for things that have been dug up in their past, society expects payment for past sins and often great people are forced to step down from positions because of long forgotten acts. This then sends a clear message to us to keep quiet about anything we may have done in the past that friends and family may find objectionable . So we live a lie and we never escape our past because we are in fear people may discover who we really are. What they don’t know won’t hurt them, but boy is it killing some of us.
As Jack Nicholson said in A Few Good Men ‘you want the truth you can’t handle the truth’ and he was right, we can’t handle the truth about our loved ones our leaders our stars our country our history. Nobody’s perfect yet we all demand perfection from everyone we meet what a mess we have gotten ourselves in.
Obviously not all past is dark and sinister much of it seems to be good but over time good becomes great and then we find ourselves sounding like our parents dwelling on the good old days. In truth what has gone before was never that great, we simply see the past through rose tinted glasses this does us a great disservices as everything is measured against our past and found lacking. So once again even our good past appears most of the time to have a negative effect on our daily lives …….
I’m sure many of you will disagree with what I have said but I can assure you this new year’s eve I intend to mentally grab my past by the throat and throw it away once and for all and while that will be far from easy to do it will be far more beneficial that all the other Resolutions I’ve made over my life and not kept.